The United States still has one of the world’s highest divorce rates. About half of all first marriages end in divorce. The rates rise significantly for second and third marriages, but couples can avoid adding to those statistics by taking advantage of the free marriage counseling resources out there. After our extensive research we concluded that there aren’t any legitimate online marriage counselors offering free service. Website luring you to try something free for a month probably won’t be helpful in the long-run. Most of the free counseling that will be available to you will be in person, likely through your local community center or church. We also found a variety of other resources that serve as free alternatives to marriage counseling. Our solution is to seek the help of forums, discussion groups and sites that provide information to address your marriage’s needs.
Identify What Kind of Help You Need
There are many free marriage counseling resources available online. To sift through them it’s best you first identify what it is you are looking for. If your spouse is behaving strangely and you have questions about it there are many safe places to anonymously pose those questions. You’ll often find many others have been put in the same situation and found a way to resolve it. The internet is a great place to answer some of the questions that may not beg the necessity of an actual marriage counselor but if the time comes for that there are ways of getting the help you need without spending a penny.
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Free Marriage Counseling Resources Online
Utilizing the various marriage counseling tools that are available on internet can be greatly beneficial to your marriage. Forums, discussion groups and marriage counseling providers also offer a good source of free information. Bounce ideas about communication and fostering a loving relationship off one another in a forum. Offer tips that you’ve learned over the years so others can benefit from your experience. On websites like allaboutcounseling.com they offer forums and other resources for a vast number of marital issues. Sites like Theravive.com have plenty of informational resources as well as a unique service to help you find therapists and counselors in your area. Lastly, a good all around free marriage counseling resource online is ForYourMarriage.org which has information on all aspects of marriage and marriage counseling. They specifically cater to Christian couples but have good advice for everyone. Their “Find Catholic Marriage Support” service is a great tool for anyone looking for local immediate help.
Plenty of Free Marriage Counseling Options
You can get meaningful help for your relationship through free marriage counseling. Plus, you won’t need to spend a lot of money, and you won’t have to juggle your busy schedule around visits to a therapist’s office. After you and your partner agree to get help, you’ll find plenty of options. You can start with churches and community groups, which often have online marriage therapy or online marriage counseling programs. Many people choose free marriage counseling offered by their own churches, where there’s already a sense of familiarity and comfort discussing personal issues such as relationships and religion.
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Don’t Stop Till You Get Results
Marriages are worth fighting for and the search for free marriage advice and counseling isn’t always fruitful. It may take some time but exploring the various options (support groups, church counseling, online forums) increases your chances of finding the help you need. The answer to your marriage problems could lie in one of them.
If you’re looking for a convenient option, BetterHelp.com offers an online counseling service, connecting you to one of 14,000 licensed therapists. As an affiliate, we receive compensation if you purchase BetterHelp’s services.
Learn more on how to avoid divorce in our Marriage Counseling Guide.
What if you’re the only one willing to give counseling a try? Are there any alternatives?
Barbara, many counselors and therapists are open to working with just one person in a marriage. They may advise you on how to engage your partner and move forward constructively. We wish you the best in your marriage.
I’m Vanessa I’ve been with my husband for 13years we’ve been married for 2 he has become selfish he don’t care about nothing he do or say that hurts my feinhs no matter how I talk to him about it he don’t apologize for nothing then he says I have a problem I don’t know when to stop talking or arguing when whenever he does something n I try to talk it he starts to yell or he ignores me completely like I don’t even exist he cheated on me for a year n the girl took set on me she was on media posting stuff she called me n message me she had ppl see me said stuff n even spat on me n not once did he looked in y eyes m gave me an apology its been awhile now but it Still bothers MW n whenever I bring it up n try to talk to him cuz we never talked abt it he flips out n say I have nothing to do y do I keep bringing it up I have a prob ect n it hurts me I don’t know how to deal with it
He sounds like a coward, he sounds like my ex it sounds to me like you need to leave him completely if you already haven’t, he’s the type to do things in front of you and still has the guts to tell you that your crazy! And it seems like he says that it’s your fault that your the one seeking to get hurt eventhouh he’s the one causing your pain, he is a true coward who will never admit that he is wrong. It’s easier for him to avoid all that he has done to you. Once a cheater always a cheater, I had one just like that and now I’m finally happy that I found the strength to move on.
Wow im going through the same thing with my husband sounds so familiar. We have been together 16 years and married 1 year. And even though just like most people they think their relationship will change once married to me its gotten worse. He doesn’t seem to care about my feelings nothing. So its good to hear some one in the same boat.
Hi Vanessa I’ve been married with my husband for about 10 years. My world was my husband and everything revolved around him. In the ten years of marriage whenever we had sex with me he never tried to excite me and always satisfy himself and he is done. He never even attempt to satisfy me sexually because his needs are being fulfilled in just 5 mins. I spoke to him many times about this but he doesn’t seem to care. Other thing is that he never make me feel special or cuddles me and when I try he always say that he don’t like this kind of romance he only like hardcore sex. In the ten years of marriage I had never demanded anything from him except his love. I don’t have any wedding ring or jewelry with me as a token of our marriage because in the bad times my husband sold it for our survival. Now things are different as he have a steady job and he is earning well too but he never even try to gift me any wedding ring or jewelry. All these years just passed by but we never really celebrated any occasion like my birthday or wedding anniversary or any occasion that is special in our lives. He didn’t even bother to give a flower or even send a text message to make me special. I seem to ignore all these things but slowly I was getting depressed. I stopped caring about myself and gained weight. I started wearing specs and never really care about my appearance anymore. In the beginning of our relationship I was entirely a different person. I was conscious about my appearance in front of him and always try to do something or the other thing to impress him but he never notices me or gives me a compliment. Slowly and gradually I stopped doing anything for him because I thought that he will never notice.
A year ago I got a chance to speak with my ex boyfriend on a phone. My ex-boyfreind lives in a different country so we always video chat or call each other on a phone. Being a depressed person I told everything to him. When I spoke to him I realized that he is still madly in love with me and never married to any other girl. I know it is hard to believe that but it is true that there is no girl in his life in all these years. Since we have a same circle I got to about him from my common friends. Fourteen years ago I break his heart to marry this guy and left him heartbroken. Now I’m heartbroken but I’m grateful to him that he still speaks to me the same way as before. When we were in relationship we never had sex and we both were virgin. But we used to kiss each other, cuddle each other and hug each other. I miss all those things now in my life. When my ex-boyfreind heard my story he really got upset. When he saw me first time on a video chat he was shocked to see me and his eyes were in tears. After all he was seeing me after 14 years. As time passed by I started to get his attention and it resulted in gaining my confidence bank. I lost weight and started to look better. I also started caring about myself because I always get his attention and he notices even a single detail about me.
I gained my confidence back and feel much better now. Also I wanted to be with him. He also proposed me for marriage.
On the other hand my husband also noticed these changes in me. He started appreciating my beauty. But in heart I know that it was not for him anymore. Still I wanted to give him a second chance so I decided to celebrate his birthday and surprise him. In the night when I tried to wish him he scolded me that I disturbed his sleep. I was heartbroken again. Next day I was decorating my home for his birthday and he shouted on me that he doesn’t like all these tantrums. My anger bursted out and first time I replied him that so what if he doesn’t like it did he ever thought about my feelings. I might had liked celebrating his birthday or a anniversary, I might like a rose in a anniversary and I might like these decorations so that I can celebrate his birthday. Now he gives me attention and appreciates me but his attitude is still the same. Sexually even he hasn’t change and doing it the same way as before. Sometimes I feel like that he is raping me because I never really wanted to have sex with him anymore. One more thing he talks shit about my sisters and always cracks a joke that if he would get a chance he will marry all my sisters. Although, he say this jokingly but it really hurts my feelings and he is repetitive about it. When I try to stop him as usual he ignores.
Please help me! I don’t know what to do….I have no one in my life because to marry this person I fought with my family. Now no one is with me except my ex-boyfriend. He also lives in another country but is willing to marry me again.
be careful of “i know in my heart”- as our heart lies — if our mind is not well formed! Really make all your actions with reference to your marriage vows. If it feels like rape– its because of your infidelity in mind– I’ve been through it! Nothing beats FAITHFULNESS to vows!
Sounds like your marriage is very toxic. There is no love there from him. He does not respect you, nor your family, and gets a kick out of it. He shows no positive emotions towards you and probably would not care if you left him.
I would seriously seek a marriage counseling for yourself. Being in that environment will eventually destroy you completely.
You have to get rid of the ‘old’ and prepare and “make room” for a new blessing before you can receive it.
I have been married for 24 years now but in November last year I have a free trainer at the gym he was great he has helped me lose weight but I fell in love with him I don’t know what to do . He’s a Pastor and he said he is married with grand kids and said he is in love with me. I will not sleep with him because I love my husband but my husband don’t hug or kiss me but my trainer did. It is out of control. But he is a very good trainer what should I do?
I can completely relate to feeling like the spark is gone.I’ve been married 24 years aswell,But with that said you have given your heart to your husband for almost a quarter of a century so you owe it to him to try whatever it takes to try and figure out how to get that spark back or to move on and leave your marriage.And keep in mind this trainer is married also.He may do this with other women.Don’t give in to the passion of it when that may be all it is!Just my opinion.Good luck..
Stop seeing the trainer & make sure all doors r closed b 4 another 1 is open on both ends. Ask yourself, if he’s doing it 2 the woman (the wife) he has now, want he do the same 2 u? Ur both married, it’s just wrong.
Put an end with this trainer..
I need help, I work 3 jobs pay all the bills and take care of my wife. She doesn’t work simply because she’s had brain tumor removed and now suffers from migraine headaches from time to time. Her headaches get so bad that she suffers and lays in bed for 2-3 days. She’s had jobs but they have to let her go because of these headaches. She self educates by which I mean if she feels the slightest headache coming on she takes 4 Advil ever 2-3 hours, if it progresses now she will take vicod or Norcos which ever she has. Non prescription. But she’s also taking Xanax, Zoloft, phiurinal. Her side effects I’ve noticed to are hot flashes, chills, restless leg, abdominal cramping, shaky hands, no energy, no sex drive, weight gain, VERY MOODY, stays up late until 3-4 in the morning, sleeps all the next day until 2-3 in the afternoon. I’m sometimes afraid to talk to her because I don’t know what mood she might be in and if she’s suffering another migraine headache. Can somebody please HELP ME!! I don’t want to lose her, I love and care about her so much that I hate to see her this way and want to help her out before she hits rock bottom and crashes.
whats life about? Sacrifice… giving up of self for…God…and being faithful to Him. Which includes the vows you made before the almighty…here is your chance to show how much you really love God. There is a reason for all this but you can not know outside faith….no one may know the good you do in life— but God sees all. I hope and pray you do the right thing
I am a woman who aswell suffers from migraines,I had massive wreck in 2003.Hit by an 18wheeler fuel truck and had to go on disability at the age of 31.I later had an anyerism in 2011 that added more problems to deal with.I’ve been seeing a psychiatrist for depression,sleep deprivation,anxiety and more and it takes a while to adjust to life but her life may never be normal.Just try having patience with her and understanding and rub her head for her if you find the time.If she’s really having a hard time try looking into disability.It’s a very hard thing to admit but it may help her,And maybe you not have to work so much so you’ll have more time for her.Oh and advise her to try and stay in a dark room,Bright lights really triger a migraine.Best of luck to you and your wife..
I have 1 question right out of the gate, and it’s this. If one or the other go into a relationship knowing that they themselves are still going on as if they have no significant other. In other words I in a 3.2 yr relationship and my girlfriend came into this relationship Knowing full well that she was hiding and lying about a lot of hidden agenda’s that at certain times could have been or close to being a detriment to my physical well being. She continues with the same scenario till this very day. I truly do love her but I’m actually slipping down the very last thread. I broke up with her and she never accepted nor even acknowledged it. I hooked up with a lady who was 65 at the time and it was a Good time and point in my life. We moved across the fuckin country from Cali all the way to Louisiana to start over and Michelle didn’t have what it takes to inform a person. She refused to inform George once again of her relationship with me,and I blew up. I was fit to be shot and hung by the neck until dead. I was a pretty rotten fella back in the day. I need help with making a decision with the help from a few professionals Please help me. I’m seriously on my last nerve
would do any thing to get my man back carole 5136017641 thanks
I suspect my husband has been having an affair after our second child together. All he suddenly does is work then comes home and goes to bed. No talk, nothing. This isn’t the man I married.
i have been with my husband for almost a year but we got married a few months back. We both love each other but he is unable to understand and respect me. He also abused me emotionally, verbally and even physically. Now he has accepted this thing and has promised never to do it again but i feel that deep in his heart he thinks that he has done nothing really bad to me. Also, i can see that he actually has not improved because he abused me even this morning when we had a fight.Actually he is very bad at truly embracing his mistakes and also taunts me for my past mistakes in a derogatory way that if he can forgive why cant i? This attitude hurts me badly but he has justifications to defend himself. Ofcourse, i want to forgive him but that can only happen if really embraces his mistakes and works to correct them, really feels guilty from the core of his heart and learns good ways to fight Also i cannot forgive him in a matter of seconds; my soul is injured and it needs time to heal. There can be times when, if my heart is aching terribly due to memories of disrespect with which he treated me, i discuss that with him and tell him that he had been really cruel and had broken me, even if he had already apologized. I think in such situations he should not get defensive and abusive; he should understand my pain as he claims to love me and should try to calm me by saying sorry or something. I want him to respect me and understand me but he thinks he is always right and justifies him by hook or by crook. Even after having a fight today, he has blocked my number. What should i do? i cant leave him, i cant discuss it with anybody and i can even afford couples counselling; i am 23 years old emotionally, socially and financially dependent girl; also i love him. What can i do? please help me through your valuable suggestions.
Hi I’m Ann my husband a very nice but we always end up in a fight if I make any comments even if its not a big deal h snaps I don’t know how to deal with it